Comments on: It’s not my party, but I’ll cry if I want to.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 04:33:20 +0000

What’s the small dick gesture? For somebody (we’re talking about me here… my favorite subject) who was super sensitive, and a big girl, I can’t recall many bad incidents from high school. Maybe I removed them from my memory because they were too painful, I don’t know, but it just doesn’t seem to me that it happened all that often. But my size was certainly on my mind all the time, preventing me from being free in almost every way. I had a particularly awesome job in high school, in a P.I. office, and I was very close to my bosses. I remember having a discussion with Irene, one of my bosses, one day, about my size, and she looked at me strangely and said, “Jen, you know, obviously, you are a big girl. I know this, and yet, the way you present yourself, your entire stature, your funny and charming personality, I simply don’t see you that way. It’s just not a part of you. I wish you could see yourself that way, too.” It was one of the nicest compliments I’d ever received and I was grateful, but I didn’t fully appreciate it until I was 160 pounds lighter. I still find that to be a shame. The trick is to find your armour, to have it up if/when it’s needed, but to know where the holes are so that you never shut out those new folks who are truely lovely. It IS a journey, and one I’m on with you, my friend. Come over for the Oscars, okay?

By: Laurie

Laurie — Tue, 23 Jan 2007 04:35:57 +0000

If I had been there, I totally would have punched every single one of them in the throat for you.

By: warcrygirl

warcrygirl — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 22:02:01 +0000

I meant to come back here and leave a snarky comment but the only thing I could remember is “the bigger the truck the smaller the dick”.

By: DanjerusKurves

DanjerusKurves — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 17:54:18 +0000

Ha! you left me a comment while I was reading this!

Back in the yonder days of my wild years … wait, I’m still having my wild years … um, anyway, back a large number of years ago, a very-attractive gf and I were walking through the car park on our way into the infamous Red Onion nightclub. We were both slender, pretty, young, and dammit we looked adorable. This jerkoff and his buddy come screetching thru the car park going too fast and had to swerve around us … and hit the brakes … and yell at us “You stupid fat cows!” Well, we just looked at one another and looked back at them and fell into hopeless laughter. My friend then gave them the “small dick” gesture and we toddled off to the sounds of their spluttering. See, dahling, we are ALL subject to being insulted and potentially hurt by the words of a stranger, but no matter what, the stupid boys CANNOT handle the small-dick gesture.

By: sparkspark

sparkspark — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 16:57:00 +0000

I’m with Meany and Dom. XO Violet

By: dom

dom — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 16:00:52 +0000

That guy has an appropriate name.

By: Meany

Meany — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 13:08:27 +0000

Next time you should just smack that douchebag in the nuts with a broken beer bottle, dude. Fuck people and they ign’ant selves. Word.

By: cardiogirl

cardiogirl — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 11:31:48 +0000

It is amazing to me that people are so mean and rude. I just wrote about this. I try to remind myself that shitty behavior is really about the other person (unless I’m the one being the shit, then that’s another story), but it’s hard to remind yourself of that when you are the brunt of their comments.

Stay cool, stay strong.

By: kristen

kristen — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 08:12:54 +0000

I hate when that happens. You think you’ve grown, you think you’ve become stronger, you think you’re a grown up, and then some asshole comes along and somehow pushes all the right buttons find your insecurities.

About 10 years ago, I went on Atkins and lost 120 lbs (all of which, plus 40, were gained back after I got married because Dr Atkins is an asshole who just left me at the altar, but that’s a different story). So I weighed about 25 lbs less than I do even now. One day, I was rollerblading at the lake, and some kids pulled up in the entrance driveway right as I was getting there, and they rolled down the window to call me a cow.
I said, “Good thing you weren’t around before I lost 100 lbs, or that might have hurt my feelings!”

I went right back to my car and cried to myself all the way home. Even more upsetting was the fact that they drove away without hearing my pithy retort.

By: awittykitty

awittykitty — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 05:18:06 +0000

They obviously don’t respect ANY women, Andria. Look at who and where they are….a bunch of loser dickheads getting shit-faced at some seedy dive. Consider the source. P.S. My Dad used to have a Hitler cat. Loved that site.